{"id":906270,"date":"2026-05-16T09:26:28","date_gmt":"2026-05-16T14:26:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/2026\/05\/16\/i-want-to-ask-my-husband-to-tie-me-down-before-we-start\/"},"modified":"2026-05-16T09:26:28","modified_gmt":"2026-05-16T14:26:28","slug":"i-want-to-ask-my-husband-to-tie-me-down-before-we-start","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/2026\/05\/16\/i-want-to-ask-my-husband-to-tie-me-down-before-we-start\/","title":{"rendered":"I Want to Ask My Husband to Tie Me Down Before We Start"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I\u2019m in my late twenties and my husband is in his late thirties. We dated for a year and half before we got married. When he first talked about marriage, I asked my husband, \u201cAre you sure I can live with the size of your \u2018joystick\u2019 for the rest of my life?\u201d<\/p>\n

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My husband is built differently. I mean his joystick. It\u2019s not normal. It\u2019s not something you play with and go unscathed. It will leave a mark. Physical. Emotional. A mark that would make you dread the next meeting. I told my best friend about it and she laughed. She said, \u201cYou\u2019ll get used to it. It\u2019s just a matter of time and continue usage. You\u2019ll be fine.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve been married for four months now and I\u2019m not still used to it. If anything, I\u2019m scared of him now than I did when we were dating. When we were dating, I could make excuses and because we weren\u2019t under the same roof, he\u2019d let it slide. So we didn\u2019t do much. I always ran for shelter.<\/p>\n

We lived in the same town when we were dating. But after marriage, he got transferred to a different region. Marriage is marriage, and I\u2019m expected to pay my role as a wife both outside and in the bedroom. So after marriage, I applied for leave to go and spend two weeks with him.<\/p>\n

I was so sure I was going to use those two weeks to get acclimatized to what I\u2019d signed up for. In my mind, this was the time I got used to it as my friend promised. I got there and nothing changed. I shivered when he was naked. I developed instant headache just the thought of me using his joystick. We planned to spend two weeks together but just after three days, we had to part ways. He was frustrated. I was in constant fear of his size.<\/p>\n

We made new plans and scheduled how we were going to visit each other to bridge the gap and also make the distance between us disappear. We agreed he would come to my place in the middle of the month and I would go to his place at the end of the month. As I write this, I don\u2019t even remember the last time I visited at the end of the month. I don\u2019t go because of the same fear.<\/p>\n

He keeps telling me I should continue taking it to get used to it. I try but playing with it is like a running where angels fear to tread. Nothing changes when I used it. Same pain. Same fear. So I wiggle my way out of the entanglement.<\/p>\n

Because of this, he\u2019s not able to get to the point where he could release his seed into my soil for it to germinate. Apart from the size, he\u2019s not the kind of person who \u2018comes\u2019 early. At this point, if he was a two minute man, we could have\u00a0 <\/span>managed just fine. Give my husband thirty minutes and he will still be hanging on asking for more time.<\/p>\n

I want to get pregnant. Both of us want a child. When we talked about it, he said, \u201cUnless I get uninterrupted two rounds before a child can appear.\u201d<\/p>\n

Even one session is a problem for me, talk about two. His joystick touches my inner skin and I get goosebumps. Not out of pleasure but pain. I will shift here and there. I would cry and gnash my teeth until it will slip out and I will breath.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Four months after marriage and my husband has never shot a swimming seed into me. He calls and say, \u201cI will be coming around\u201d and I suddenly get panic attack.<\/p>\n

We need a child. He comes to visit often, every weekend he\u2019s with me. Sometimes he comes to my place during the week when his working schedule would permit him, yet I\u2019m not able to complete the match even after doing all the foreplay and antics to get me to be ready.<\/p>\n

The last time he convinced me to collect it from behind in doggy pet mode, I sat on warm water for a week. I felt broken from the inside, like my inside was melting away.<\/p>\n

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