{"id":860408,"date":"2025-07-05T19:17:52","date_gmt":"2025-07-06T00:17:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/2025\/07\/05\/sex-files-bedroom-double-life-why-75-of-men-keep-their-kinks-secret\/"},"modified":"2025-07-05T19:17:52","modified_gmt":"2025-07-06T00:17:52","slug":"sex-files-bedroom-double-life-why-75-of-men-keep-their-kinks-secret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/2025\/07\/05\/sex-files-bedroom-double-life-why-75-of-men-keep-their-kinks-secret\/","title":{"rendered":"SEX FILES: Bedroom double life: Why 75% of men keep their kinks secret"},"content":{"rendered":"<article aria-labelledby=\"articleTitle\" data-wcm-id=\"1becd2b5-9caa-4a05-8cf5-af4bd6d03fac\">\n<header aria-label=\"Beginning of Article\">\n<div>\n<div>\n<p><span>Published Jun 15, 2025<\/span> \u00a0\u2022\u00a0 <span>Last updated Jun 15, 2025<\/span> \u00a0\u2022\u00a0 <span>3 minute read<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<figure 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srcset=\"https:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=472&#038;h=354&#038;type=jpg&#038;sig=1Qes2vgthwdkSNkHeMvaqQ, \nhttps:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=944&#038;h=708&#038;type=jpg&#038;sig=0QYoUWB5wgw6Xk05QcTYLA 2x\" type=\"image\/jpeg\"><source media=\"(max-width: 767px)\" srcset=\"https:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=288&#038;h=216&#038;type=webp&#038;sig=b_BuxLctoHXxrMntpAeFBg, \nhttps:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=576&#038;h=432&#038;type=webp&#038;sig=_6OavW_dglPn5FyqQa0ESQ 2x\" type=\"image\/webp\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Despite living in an era that champions sex positivity, a surprising number of men are still keeping their sexual desires hidden.\" src=\"https:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=288&#038;h=216&#038;sig=MD69RsEcgfJU6Mx0Xj0x8A\" srcset=\"https:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=288&#038;h=216&#038;sig=MD69RsEcgfJU6Mx0Xj0x8A,\n                    https:\/\/smartcdn.gprod.postmedia.digital\/torontosun\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Intimate-couple-Getty-June15-e1749652375151.jpg?quality=90&#038;strip=all&#038;w=576&#038;h=432&#038;sig=0L8f12JW2diFpPF6N_qOSg 2x\" height=\"740\" width=\"986\"><\/picture><figcaption><span>Despite living in an era that champions sex positivity, a surprising number of men are still keeping their sexual desires hidden.<\/span> <span>Photo by proud_natalia \/ iStock<\/span> \/<span>Getty Images<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/header>\n<section>\n<p>The first time a partner admitted their \u201ckink\u201d \u2014 that they enjoyed slow, sensual sex with plenty of eye contact \u2014 surprised and turned me on. After decades of dating men who bragged about their stamina and ever-readiness, as if they were precision-engineered machines rather than human beings, this kind of vulnerability felt rare and refreshing. However, this isn\u2019t the case for everyone.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<section data-aqa=\"identity-sign-in\" data-async id=\"article-block\">\n<header>\n<div>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Toronto Sun\" height=\"37\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/dcs-static.gprod.postmedia.digital\/19.0.3\/websites\/images\/identity\/logo-identity-tsun.svg\" width=\"280\"><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>THIS CONTENT IS RESERVED FOR SUBSCRIBERS ONLY<\/p>\n<p>Subscribe now to read the latest news in your city and across Canada.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Unlimited online access to articles from across Canada with one account.<\/li>\n<li>Get exclusive access to the Toronto Sun ePaper, an electronic replica of the print edition that you can share, download and comment on.<\/li>\n<li>Enjoy insights and behind-the-scenes analysis from our award-winning journalists.<\/li>\n<li>Support local journalists and the next generation of journalists.<\/li>\n<li>Daily puzzles including the New York Times Crossword.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p>SUBSCRIBE TO UNLOCK MORE ARTICLES<\/p>\n<p>Subscribe now to read the latest news in your city and across Canada.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Unlimited online access to articles from across Canada with one account.<\/li>\n<li>Get exclusive access to the Toronto Sun ePaper, an electronic replica of the print edition that you can share, download and comment on.<\/li>\n<li>Enjoy insights and behind-the-scenes analysis from our award-winning journalists.<\/li>\n<li>Support local journalists and the next generation of journalists.<\/li>\n<li>Daily puzzles including the New York Times Crossword.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p>REGISTER \/ SIGN IN TO UNLOCK MORE ARTICLES<\/p>\n<p>Create an account or sign in to continue with your reading experience.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Access articles from across Canada with one account.<\/li>\n<li>Share your thoughts and join the conversation in the comments.<\/li>\n<li>Enjoy additional articles per month.<\/li>\n<li>Get email updates from your favourite authors.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p>THIS ARTICLE IS FREE TO READ REGISTER TO UNLOCK.<\/p>\n<p>Create an account or sign in to continue with your reading experience.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Access articles from across Canada with one account<\/li>\n<li>Share your thoughts and join the conversation in the comments<\/li>\n<li>Enjoy additional articles per month<\/li>\n<li>Get email updates from your favourite authors<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/header>\n<\/section>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<p data-async>Despite living in an era that champions sex positivity, a surprising number of men are still keeping their sexual desires hidden. <a data-evt-val=\"{\"control_fields\": {\"mparticle\": {\"keys\": {\"click_source_type\": \"click_source_type\", \"anchor_text\": \"anchor_text\", \"target_url\": \"target_url\", \"layout_section\": \"layout_section\"}, \"mp_event_type\": \"Navigation\", \"extra_keys\": [\"click_vertical_position_percentage\", \"click_vertical_position_pixels\"]}}, \"click_source_type\": \"in-page link\", \"anchor_text\": \"Joi AI\", \"target_url\": \"https:\/\/joi.com\/?gender=fem&#038;createdBy=eva\", \"layout_section\": \"in-page-link\"}\" href=\"https:\/\/joi.com\/?gender=fem&#038;createdBy=eva\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-evt=\"click\" data-evt-typ=\"click\" target=\"_blank\">Joi AI<\/a>, the first AI-lationship platform, surveyed 2,000 men and found that vulnerability around intimacy remains deeply stigmatized, especially for men. More than half admit to faking what turns them on, while nearly one in three say they fear getting dumped for sharing a sexual kink.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<p data-async>\u201cUnfortunately, even in our modern society, men are still experiencing feelings of shame when attempting to be vulnerable, especially when it comes to intimacy and sex,\u201d shares <a data-evt-val=\"{\"control_fields\": {\"mparticle\": {\"keys\": {\"click_source_type\": \"click_source_type\", \"anchor_text\": \"anchor_text\", \"target_url\": \"target_url\", \"layout_section\": \"layout_section\"}, \"mp_event_type\": \"Navigation\", \"extra_keys\": [\"click_vertical_position_percentage\", \"click_vertical_position_pixels\"]}}, \"click_source_type\": \"in-page link\", \"anchor_text\": \"Jaime Bronstein\", \"target_url\": \"https:\/\/therelationshipexpert.com\/\", \"layout_section\": \"in-page-link\"}\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-evt=\"click\" data-evt-typ=\"click\" href=\"https:\/\/therelationshipexpert.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Jaime Bronstein<\/a>, LCSW, a licensed relationship therapist and expert at Joi AI, over email. The emotional toll of conforming to outdated expectations is valid, forcing many men to suppress their most authentic desires.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<div aria-labelledby=\"YourMiddaySun7893042429751216780025806352023552\" data-account-id=\"b9d3df2fccd108b5eff3c44f573b2cd6\" data-aqa=\"widget-newsletter\" data-newsletter=\"single\" data-newsletter-component data-target-list=\"TORSUN_YourMiddaySun\" data-widget=\"newsletter\">\n<p>By signing up you consent to receive the above newsletter from Postmedia Network Inc.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<p>When asked why she thinks men feel the need to hide what turns them on \u2014 even in so-called sex-positive relationships, Bronstein says that sex positivity isn\u2019t synonymous with emotional safety. \u201cYou can be with someone who is open-minded about toys and threesomes, but the moment you bring up something slightly different, something personal, vulnerable, or outside the masculine mold \u2014 you might notice a shift.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bronstein explains that this disconnect stems from intergenerational conditioning that tells men that they should want sex, but only specific kinds of sex that align with socially accepted narratives around masculinity. \u201cAnd if they want anything less than aggressive, something gentle, slow, or expressive, that somehow makes them less of a man,\u201d says Bronstein. She adds, \u201cSo even in modern relationships, there\u2019s this subconscious fear that showing their whole sexual selves might make their lover turned off, get the \u201cick,\u201d or, worse, leave.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<p>If a man already has abandonment issues, risking this kind of rejection is enough to keep their desires under lock and key \u2014 even if it\u2019s something as simple as \u201cI love eye contact during sex.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The survey found that 75% of men have kinks they don\u2019t share with their partners. When asked how this impacts long-term relationships, Bronstein says, \u201cDesire doesn\u2019t just vanish when it\u2019s ignored. It morphs. It can turn into resentment, disconnection, or a double life. When one partner is editing themselves in the bedroom for years, the relationship might still look stable, but emotionally, it\u2019s thinning out.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Not every kink or fantasy needs to be acted upon, but talking about them helps build intimacy, says Bronstein. \u201cWithout that space, a man might stop seeing his partner as someone he can fully trust or be seen by. And once you lose that, you\u2019re not just missing out on sex \u2014 you\u2019re missing out on closeness,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<section>\n<p>Article content<\/p>\n<p>That said, taking the first step to sharing authentic desires with a partner can feel incredibly scary. To help mitigate this, Bronstein suggests starting slow and easing into the conversation. \u201cThe goal isn\u2019t to dump everything out at once \u2014 it\u2019s to make curiosity a regular part of life.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bronstein encourages couples to ask open-ended questions after sex (\u201cWas there anything you wished we\u2019d done differently?\u201d) and name their vulnerabilities first (\u201cThis is a little awkward to say, but I think I\u2019ve been craving\u2026\u201d). Partners can also create a judgment-free ritual, like a monthly check-in, \u201cwhere both people can share something they\u2019re curious about with no expectation to act on it.\u201d These check-ins allow people to test the waters and see how their significant other responds.<\/p>\n<p>Lastly, Bronstein says it\u2019s important to practice listening without reacting. \u201cYou don\u2019t have to love or understand everything your partner says \u2014 but responding with, \u201cThanks for telling me,\u201d instead of shock or laughter? 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