{"id":821925,"date":"2025-01-22T10:12:43","date_gmt":"2025-01-22T16:12:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/2025\/01\/22\/the-singlehood-series-when-he-lives-with-his-baby-mama-because-he-doesnt-want-to-pay-child-support\/"},"modified":"2025-01-22T10:12:43","modified_gmt":"2025-01-22T16:12:43","slug":"the-singlehood-series-when-he-lives-with-his-baby-mama-because-he-doesnt-want-to-pay-child-support","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/2025\/01\/22\/the-singlehood-series-when-he-lives-with-his-baby-mama-because-he-doesnt-want-to-pay-child-support\/","title":{"rendered":"The Singlehood Series: When He Lives With His Baby Mama Because He Doesn\u2019t Want To Pay Child Support"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Martin was like a breath of fresh air after the year Phoebe had had. She had been facing health challenges and was in and out of the hospital. After months of ineffective fixes, Phoebe had major surgery to address her issue. What Phoebe didn\u2019t anticipate was people treating her like a fragile flower.<\/p>\n

She knew they meant well, but she hated feeling like her health challenges defined her. That was all her friends, family and colleagues talked to her about. When Martin sent her a message on Instagram, she quickly jumped at the chance of talking to a stranger who was unaware of her situation.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t hard to have a conversation with Martin either. They shared many interests and he was hilarious. The only downside to his humour was that her laughter came with physical pain as she recovered from the surgery.<\/p>\n

After weeks of wonderful conversations, they decided to meet. It felt like they had been old friends. There wasn\u2019t an awkward moment during the first date. Phoebe liked that they had mutual friends but that didn\u2019t impact how they interacted with each other.<\/p>\n

As they were having their meal, they tried out the day\u2019s dessert; Martin was impressed by the cake.<\/p>\n

\u201cI should get this for my daughter Anatolia. She is such a sweet tooth,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat\u2019s very thoughtful of you. How old is she?\u201d Asked Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cShe turns eight in a few months,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

\u201cStill with the mom?\u201d Asked Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo. That didn\u2019t work out but we co-parent,\u201d Martin responded.<\/p>\n

That was sufficient information to keep pursuing the budding friendship with Martin. Phoebe admired his love for his daughter. She respected him for coming clean about having a child given the stories she had heard of men lying about not having families.<\/p>\n

A few weeks later, Martin invited Phoebe out. He was already having drinks with his friends. When Phoebe arrived she found that she knew some of the people in the group. It was a lovely night filled with laughter and banter. You could tell the friends had known each other for a long time and had spent enough time together from the conversations.<\/p>\n

At around 4 a.m., Martin told Phoebe that he needed to leave.<\/p>\n

\u201cDo you want to leave right now so that I can drop you home or will you take a cab later?\u201d Martin asked her.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy are you leaving so early?\u201d Asked Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cI need to take the family to church,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

Phoebe interpreted that as he needed to drop his daughter in church but she saw his friends exchange looks. Martin looked impatient so she had to quickly decide whether to leave with him or enjoy the night with the remaining company. She chose to leave.<\/p>\n

The following day Martin texted her in the evening. They talked about their day. Martin talked about taking his daughter to church and having his car washed as he waited for the service to end. Phoebe thought that was the moment to clear her doubts because the looks Martin\u2019s friends exchanged made her uncomfortable.<\/p>\n

\u201cSo your daughter is old enough to go to church alone?\u201d Phoebe asked.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo, she goes with her mother,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

\u201cI take it you also took them both to church?\u201d Asked Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, I did.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cDid you pick them up from her place?\u201d Asked Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m beginning to feel like I\u2019m being interrogated,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

\u201cNot really. I\u2019m just trying to understand the dynamic,\u201d said Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe still live in the same house,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

\u201cWait, what? I thought you said you\u2019re not together anymore,\u201d Phoebe replied.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe are not. We just live in the same house because I wasn\u2019t going to foot bills in two households or pay child support,\u201d Martin replied.<\/p>\n

\u201cI may not know much but that\u2019s not how the law works in such situations. You wouldn\u2019t have to foot her bill,\u201d said Phoebe.<\/p>\n

\u201cLook, I mean no disrespect but you don\u2019t know my child\u2019s mother. I know that would end up being my responsibility. Living in the same house saves me financially,\u201d said Martin.<\/p>\n

Phoebe retreated. She didn\u2019t feel like indulging in that conversation further but she was bothered. On one hand, she felt like Martin could have lied about it given the optics but he didn\u2019t so he could be telling the truth. On the other hand, it didn\u2019t make sense how one lives with his ex in the same house unless something was still going on between them.<\/p>\n

She tried to downplay her fears for a while but she wasn\u2019t comfortable with Martin\u2019s situation. She tried getting more information from his friends, but they were all dodgy or asked her to talk to Martin about it. When she talked about it with her friends, they all told her it was a red flag. She eventually decided to take a step back from her relationship with Martin.<\/p>\n

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Martin was like a breath of fresh air after the year Phoebe had had. She had been facing health challenges and was in and out of the hospital. After months of ineffective fixes, Phoebe had major surgery to address her issue. What Phoebe didn\u2019t anticipate was people treating her like a fragile flower. She knew<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":821926,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1614,123312],"tags":[5512,123311],"class_list":{"0":"post-821925","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-series","8":"category-singlehood","9":"tag-series","10":"tag-singlehood"},"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/821925","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=821925"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/821925\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/821926"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=821925"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=821925"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsycanuse.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=821925"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}